My Friend's Mistake

My Friend: A friend who will remain nameless has given me a lot to think about, and so i shall respond to his pain. For all intents and purpouses lets call my friend Kyle. See, Kyle and this chick had been dating for almost 3 months. Kyle lost his virginity to this girl and he really felt like he started to love her. She and he seemed almost inseperable. One day, amongst the normal fighting, the two decided to take a break from their relationship. In what seemed like no time, Kyle's lady started to find other venues of attraction. What she did and didn't do is pretty sketchy, thats not the point. See, my friend really never gave her the chance to open up about it, he never gave her a possible option of defense, he cast her aside. This is all good and well but now, all he really concentrates on is the fact that she hurt him. The way I see it, from my whole afair with Isabel, we all see and do what we want. Duhh, I know, lemme explain.

The dilemma: Kyle, dude, I know you care about her, but you didn't want to be with her, if you did, it wouldn't matter if she cheated on you, she could be having his baby and you'd still be with her. If you truly wanted to be with her, you would be, you would have let her defend herself, hell you might've even tried to defend her yourself, most of all you would have forgiven her. When I was with Isabel, I put up with a lot lies and deciet. Why? It's not in my principles to trust a liar, or forgive someone for infedility, but for a want strong enough, values and principles can and will be compromised. See this is the good and evil of the human condition. We can completely defy our teachings and principles for a want great enough. The good of that is that any task, big or small, is completely possible. The bad is that we can so easily lose our way, become what we are not. Kyle, I commend you on doing something that took me almost a year and half to do, cast aside a person that has done so much to you. At the same token, I condemn you for not truly seeing how you feel.

My Friend's mistake: You don't love her, in fact, she never even hurt you. She can't! To her, you're untouchable. Why? Because you don't really care about her. If you did, you wouldn't be lecturing her, blogging how you feel about her, annoying her, you'd be running after her. See, after all is said and done, we are a lot alike. You and I both wanted to be in love with a girl that has hurt us, but ultimately, we never were. I find solice in the fact that I realize i never really cared, I wanted to be in love so greatly I even led myself to believe I was just to pacify that want. "Convince yourself that everything is alright
'Cos it already is"--Pete Yorn. Maybe I'm wrong. As the stupid saying goes, "she's your ex for a reason". What I am getting at is that you are fine, this will all seem like a bad dream, and the rest of your life will pick back up. Trust me, it'll all go back to the way it was, because nothing really has changed. I've always felt like life isn't the experiences we go through, or the memories we share. Change only occures within. You may move, you may change your hair, but ultimately, how you react is who you are. This can only change from within.